Relationships.

More and more I hear about drama in the relationships around me.

Anyone who's followed this blog knows that this is a big part of what I like to talk about, and really, a big part of my life. I've "recently" gone through heartbreak, and while everything is fine, the experience changed my life forever. How can something so intangible as love for another person alter a person so much?

Let's start with the basics.

**Note - the next few paragraphs are just speculation from what I've learned, I'm no expert on love or anything, this is just my opinion**

95% of women--no, 95% of any given person (mentally/personality wise), is the same as any other. It's that 5% that makes you different.

It's that 5% which makes no relationship similar to any other. Rather, that's what makes no one person similar to any other. Just as all snowflakes are different, yet they are all made up of water; just as we are all different, but are all just flesh and bone.

Now in that 5% is all the nuances of your personality that make you who you are. Your likes, dislikes, temperament, what you're attracted to, etc. For those of you trying to chase that perfect guy/girl, this 5% can either be heaven or hell for you. It can make and break your relationship.

It's that 5% that causes all the drama. There's no two people on the world that fit perfectly together, and there's bound to be disagreements or something that one person doesn't like about the other and that's when arguments can start, resentment, and scorn. When that happens, wave the white flag and say "gg" ("good game" for those of you who don't game all the time and have self respect *cough*) cause you've just lost. Personalities always clash at one point or another, it's just whether you care enough to listen and see what your significant other means to you. Otherwise, one will take the other for granted, leaving both parties angry, sad, and eventually hurt.

So why do we do this?

Why do we get into relationships even though it's probably a less than 1% chance something amazing will happen?

Why do we get into relationships even though we get hurt in the worst way?

It doesn't make sense does it? I mean, you don't put your hand over a fire again and again, hoping for a different outcome, right?

So why do we do this?

Here's my take:

Humans are social creatures, and I feel like a real relationship is the ultimate connection with another being.

To be love and be loved in an intimate way is the most personal you can get with someone. It's an amazing, indescribable feeling. When it's done right and you're attuned to your significant other, even for a second, I think that there's no better happiness.

That's why we try and try again. Once you've had a taste of the "forbidden fruit" (no, I don't mean sex) you really can't live without it.

It's so we can find that person we can completely break down our walls and become completely vulnerable; because we know our other will be there. I think everyone just wants that feeling. To finally be able to let your guard down.

Well that's my take, if you don't mind sharing yours, I'd be glad to listen. :]

Love

So Valentine's Day is coming upon us, and my friend Dan has been posting up so many.. how should we say.... love quotes? I don't know what they're called. All's I know is some of them are kinda beautiful (at least to me) and well, the others are kinda corny and funny. I just want to share with the world a little bit of love, because, really that's what we all need.

here's what he's posted thus far:

There are only two times when i want to be with you... Now, and forever.

Love is not only to love the times when you are at your top, but also to love you at your lowest

Whenever I'm near you, i feel my heart skip a beat.
Whenever I hear your voice, every other sound get's drowned out.
Whenever I see you, I wish you were mine.

The heavens weep for the one angel that fell, that was you.

Sometimes people put up walls, not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.

Don't say you love me unless you really mean it, because I might do something crazy like believe it.

If I could be any part of you, I’d be your tears. To be conceived in your heart, born in your eyes, live on your cheeks, and die on your lips.

‎"The spaces between your fingers were created so that another's could fill them in."

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

It doesn't matter how long you have known him.....if he's got you smiling, starting from day one.....don't lose him..

‎" If I could reach up and hold a star for every time you've made me smile, the entire evening sky would be in the palm of my hand."

Don't put off telling someone how you feel about them, because every day that passes by is another opportunity for them to meet someone else.

If you want to know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders.

they ask me what i see in you and i smile, look down and say nothing because i don't want them to fall in love with you too

The only guy that deserves you... is the one that thinks he doesn't. the one that'll stick by your side... no matter how much you mess up. and the one who will forgive you... mistake after mistake...

There's always a real reason behind every "just wondering"

Who would you chose? The one that you love...or the one that loves you?

God gave us two ears to hear, two eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did God give us only one heart? Because he wants us to find the other one.

GREAT LOVE: It's when you shed tears yet you still care; it's when you're ignored yet you still long; it's when he begins to love another yet you still smile and say "I'm happy for you."

Everyone wants to be the sun that lights up your life. But I'd rather be your moon, so I can shine on you during your darkest hour when your sun isn't around.

‎"Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control."

If you could see inside my head,
If thoughts were things to see.
You would see how much you mean,
How much you mean to me.
As long as you are with me,
My heart soars with joy.
The only person I think of,
Is you all day and night.
Even if I try to think of someone else I can’t
The only thing I ask is for you to never leave.
Because if you were to leave me,
I would never be able to live.

Happy Valentine's Day everyone.

If you have a significant other, cherish them, tell them you love them. If you have someone you're interested in, spend some time with them. If you like being single, well, good for you lol.

What is Love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no mo~

Today wasn't too bad. Actually got a lot done and no one yelled at anyone today. Everyone was also at work, but I'll take what I can get. ^^

Today I had an appointment with my oncologist, Dr. Uma, that I've had for 5 years. She looked exactly the same, traditional indian clothing with a doctor's coat covered in pen scribbles all over it. It was really nice seeing her, as it always is. I also saw my other oncologist Dr. Nachman, who surprisingly offered me a summer job in one of his research labs (SCORE) and I'd actually get paid (DOUBLE SCORE). I just gotta fill out the paperwork, and hope to the Gods that I don't fuck anything up.... which shouldn't be the case *knock on wood* because I'm pretty decent with biological lab work.

Only problem at the hospital was that the nurse that drew my blood was a complete noob (what else is new) and missed the vein on her first stab and got my nerve instead, which made my arm twitch. Then on her second stab, she.... got my nerve AGAIN.. in the SAME SPOT. Needless to say, that hurt like a bitch... buuuut she got the job done in the end, so a sore arm isn't too bad of a trade-off for knowing that I'm not going to die from anemia. We cool, noob nurse, we cool. :]

rest of the day was pretty nice. Learned the rest of Ian Eastwoods "Please Don't Go" choreography and I also learned Keone's choreo to "Got No Worries" . I still need some cleaning in both dances, but I basically can do them. Maybe I'll work on Sh*t Kingz's "Something Special" or Keone and Ian's choreo to "Rock that Body"... MAYBE BOTH :O

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Alright now to what I wanted to talk about. Today I read something about Love that really intrigued me. This guy said that Love is when you can see the flaws of a person, and still have strong positive feelings for them.

I disagree.

I believe that Love is when you are in a relationship and you don't see flaws anymore. Early on in any relationship, there are always going to be at least one noticeable thing that you don't like about your significant other, but I think that if you really loved them, eventually, you wouldn't think about those characteristics as flaws, but rather traits that you love because it's something that makes them who they are.... if that makes sense.

Of course, I'm not sure if that's too improbable for anyone to truly find in a person. I've only got about a month and a half of relationship experience under my belt, so this could all be just speculation from the hopeless romantic that resides in me.

What do you think?